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Sacred Life Sunday :: sister

Because our family is small, I whole-heartedly embrace and believe, that family doesn't have to be blood. Assuaging my guilt about raising an only child, perhaps. Feelings aside, the families that we're born to aren't always the family members we'd choose, given the choice.

How lovely that we're given the opportunity in this life to choose the friends that become your family; sisters who you connect to instantly. A friend that gets it about you from the start.

'we get to see each other more now because of derby, than we ever have...'

Lucky me.

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shitty picture with the point and shoot but it makes me smile.

Sacred Sunday :: check it

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This morning I read Holli's post about her role in this blog-o-sphere and this paragraph got me.

"There is something about blogging that makes me feel bad about myself in an almost highschool-esque way, just about every 6 months.  There are cliques, bullies, socialites - pretty much everything has just morphed into a different age group..." 

Oh lordy, do I get this.

But then there is the kindness and generosity of those people that you only know from this venue. A friend offering to go online the day tickets go on sale for your boyfriend's band, because you'll be at work.

This August I'll be at this show, because JC is that kind of friend. Big love for making this happen for me. Dude, you rule.

My Sacred Life Sunday :: in an instant

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It was around this time last year. I remember that because we were meeting M and A at the town pub; a celebratory dinner in place of A's birthday party that M would miss.

A commotion at the table next to us, something was happening with the woman seated less than a foot away. I heard slurring. The man was quickly by the woman's side; catching her, setting her back into her seat. She seemed to be having a stroke, I was reaching for my phone as the paramedics arrived.

Trying to divert our children, we minimized what was happening.  We said the woman didn't feel well, and we assured the girls that the paramedics would help her.

Driving home A questioned whether the woman would be alright.

'mama she was like this', A said, demonstrating the woman's eye rolling back into her head, her body rigid.

Looking into the rear view mirror, I'm able to assuage my girl that the woman was going to be fine, trying to find solace in my own words. Trying to erase the haunting image of the woman with her face pressed into the man; a slight moan escaping her lips as big fat tears rolled down her cheeks.

This morning I learned that the woman died. She went into a coma and never came back.

In those moments before the paramedics arrived, I think she knew. There was recognition on her sad face; knowing and powerless to do anything.

My heart is heavy this afternoon with sadness for that woman. I remember the man saying to the paramedics that the woman spent the afternoon gardening. I remember thinking it was a lovely day to be in the garden, and I remember hoping against hope, that it was just a day of too much sun.

Sacred life Sunday :: reflection

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M has always maintained, that I have a certain number of words that I'm required to say each day; he believes it's why I sleep so well at night. Like a dump truck, he walks through the door and a litany of words pour out.

Blogging provides a way for my words to be released. Strange then, that I've been feeling silent over here, without a lot to say.

Actually, it's about time commitment. In my all too recent past, I spent far too much time here: reading, writing, looking.  Maybe it's the Artist's Way, or maybe I've finally come out of a year-long fugue state.

That's what this feels like, coming out of a fugue state. 2007 was my year of disassociative behavior, passing through 12 months without attention or responsibility. I was a victim.

That's not to say I frittered away my year. I just spent too much time worrying. And it was a waste.

I still fret. I still worry, but it's different. I'm different. I'm trying to understand myself more, to bring in more happiness, more joy-filled days. And I'm taking more responsibility for my actions, instead of reacting.

I am my own mirror.

I receive what I reflect.

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